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Sadly, but this is the typical way most relationship are.

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Can’t find love? Dr. Lillian Glass explains on how to find and meet potential dates in this video.

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Often, many couples do not care nor talk about how the relationship goes until when it’s way too late to realize it’s at the edge of breaking up. Sometimes, it’s good to sit back, think and talk about how your relationship is going with your partner.

Only one way to find out, take the “How Does Your Relationship Rate?” quiz

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Online dating is an ubiquitous thing nowadays. One gets more options before meeting his or her date in real person. For example, you get to take your time to choose, understand, evaluate or prepare yourself before meeting your online date in real life. However, it is always important to be cautious like the saying, “better safe than sorry”. Here are ten online dating tips that you’ll find useful: -

1. Figure out what you want
   If you don’t know what you really want or need, then it will take you just that much longer to find it. Be honest with yourself about what kind of relationship you’d prefer to be involved in, to save yourself (and others) time and trouble.
2. Be Honest
   While discretion is recommended, lying is not, so be honest when you post your profile and photos. Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. The person at the other end may not be who or what he or she says.Trust your instincts.
3. Write a great profile
   What you say about yourself speaks volumes. Keep it light and friendly, and avoid anything negative sounding. Never include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information in your member profile or initial messages.
4. Request a photo
   And don’t forget to post your own. It’s a proven fact that you’ll receive twelve times as many responses when you do. Photos will give you an idea of someone’s appearance, which may prove helpful in realizing that ‘gut feeling.’ It’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors.
5. Chat on the phone
   Before you decide to meet, a phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. Only give your phone number when you feel completely comfortable.
6. Meet when YOU are ready
   The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy.
7. Watch for red flags
   Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags.
8. Meet in a safe place
   When you choose to meet in ‘real life’, always tell someone you know where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with your friend. Rather than have your date to pick you up at home, provide your own transportation, and meet in a public (crowded) place, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well.
9. Take extra caution outside your area
   If you are flying in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll have a place to go back to.
10. Never do anything you feel unsure about
    If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. But then again, you never know, the stars may all line up perfectly, and you’ll find you’ve met your soul mate. You certainly wouldn’t be the first — lots of happy couples have met online.

- by Brenda Ross

(Via Find Your Love)

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Reality hurts.

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By James Pong

One of the most asked questions in today’s world is no other than “How do I find the perfect match?” This has become a very common question as the world evolves, relationships are getting harder to sustain unlike a decade ago.

These days, most couples are like Hollywood celebrities, divorce rates are getting higher than ever before, couple splits more often than earthquakes occur within a year, what’s more these things still happen as often despite the fact the person having a give birth to a child or two - it is very common to see divorced parents with at least one child these days.

Why do divorcing and splitting become so ubiquitous these days? How does one find the common understanding on each other? And most of all, how does one find the perfect match?

Many believe that there’s a special person out there for everyone. Many have found theirs and yet, many are still searching and hoping. Though I would like to believe there’s always someone out there waiting for everyone, I can’t help but think that it is virtually impossible to find the exact right person from the billions of people around us. Therefore, I’m not searching. I believe the right person will appear when the time is right.

How does one find the perfect match? Moreover, if one has found one, how does one really knows if the person is the perfect match? Let’s go through this scenario: - Jon has found Mary and thinks Mary is the perfect match in every aspect. Jon thinks Mary is the one. Mary has many flaws that others might not be able to accept but because Jon sees more good points in Mary, they override the flaws she has. And they got engaged. But one day, Jon met Penny and he falls in love with Penny instantly. Penny is almost like Mary, except she doesn’t have the flaws Mary has. In this scenario, what should Jon do? Is Mary the perfect match? Or could it be Penny? It is impossible to choose when this scenario arises. The only way to solve this is through true conscience. But, is it? True love might break some hearts but if that’s the only way, then conscience would have to make way.

The above scenario is just an example of many other possible scenarios. In most of these cases, the decision that’s made is down right important since the person we choose will be the person that we will spend the rest of our lives with. Despite that, the special someone might not actually be our soul mates. Some people are meant to be married and some are destined to be single. While some of those married couples might find their soul mates in their spouses, those who are single will find their soul mates in the people around them – cousins, neighbors, best friends. And for some, even cats and dogs too. The special someone or something we are looking for might just be right in front of our eyes. Very much like the Westlife’s song Flying Without Wings, we are searching for the special someone (or something) that can complete us and we might find it in the strangest places we never know.

The truth is we just have to keep on searching until we found our perfect match – the special someone that can make us “fly without wings”.

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This is what my ideal woman would say.

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Often, we forgot the rules and the things we should say and we should never say to a girl during a date. Maybe we got distracted or otherwise. Anyways, Scribd.com has got a reminder for you dudes out there. Read on: -

1. She’s just a friend. Yeah right. If she’s attractive and single we see her as a threat. If she really is just a friend, let us know the reason why. Is it because she’s not your type, she has a boyfriend, she has an annoying personality? We like to be reassured that you’re not secretly into your “friend”.
2. I’ll call you tonight at 8pm. Do NOT give a specific time or date of when you will be calling unless you intend to keep your word. If you say you will call tonight, we are expecting a call tonight. Not calling will set off all sorts of alarms that will lead to us not trusting you. If you don’t know when you will call, you can say something like, “I’ll talk to you later.”
3. She’s hot! We like to think that, at least in your eyes, we are the hottest woman on the planet. Pointing out that someone else is attractive will not earn you any brownie points. We don’t want to know if you think anyone else is hot, so zip it!
4. I don’t use condoms. That’s nice. We don’t want an STD. Condoms are a fact of life in today’s society, so unless you’ve been tested and plan to be monogamous, get used to them.
5. I love you – If you don’t mean it, you’ll be opening Pandora’s Box. Women do not take this statement lightly. We are waiting for you to say it and when you do, we assume the relationship is moving to the next level. If you’re not ready for that, then don’t utter these three little words until you are.
6. Did you gain weight? Does this one really need an explanation? You shouldn’t even say this jokingly, even if your girlfriend is stick thin. Just as you don’t want to hear anything about your “size”, women don’t want to hear about their weight.
7. My ex always/never/used to… If your ex is still on your mind so much that you need to constantly bring her up, then why are you dating us? Relationships are difficult enough without the ghost of your ex floating around. Either get back with her or shut up.
8. You remind me of my mother. Do not compare your mother to your girlfriend unless you’ve made it clear that you absolutely adore your mother and think the world of her.
9. Did we have plans? Oh no you didn’t! If we’ve made plans to get together, we’ve been looking forward to it all day. We’ve been thinking about how to dress and how to do our hair. Don’t rain on our parade by being dumb enough to forget or there will be hell to pay.
10. Keep in touch/Call me. What the heck is that supposed to mean? That you don’t plan on ever calling us again? That you want us to call you next time? That you’re unsure how we feel about you and you want to see if we’ll call? There’s too much room for misinterpretation here, so just don’t use either of these ambiguous expressions. Your job is to call, our job is to wear the high heels.

(Via Scribd.com)

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Haven’t dated a girl before? Or don’t know the exact steps to take? Here’s Mr. Bean Guide to Dating. Guaranteed success! LoL!

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Here, Daily dishes about the 10 traits every man is looking for in a serious girlfriend:

1. She has a life of her own — and it’s pretty good to boot. Ladies, this means that you take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family. You seek adventure by traveling. And you take in life’s pleasures — from indulging in dessert to walking through the park on a sunny day. “You don’t expect your boyfriend to be your entire existence,” says Daily. In other words, you’re not waiting for some man to show up, so you can get your “real life” started.
2. She never makes the first move. This issue has been debated to death, and there is no true consensus. But Daily says that she strongly believes women should never, ever pursue a man. Instead, she suggests waiting for the man to initiate and plan dates. Her reasoning: If the woman is always the one calling, she will never know if he is really interested in her or if it’s just convenient for him. She may find herself questioning the relationship every step of the way. Men simply aren’t programmed to think like that and therefore are better suited to the chase, Daily says.
3. She is sexy without being trampy. This means something different at the beginning of the relationship than it does down the road, Daily says. In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual. She also flirts by using nonsexual touch like placing her hand on his forearm or even the knee but only briefly. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate. At this point, it’s okay to play footsie under the table.
4. She waits to have sex. Yes, the sexual revolution arrived long ago and few people expect a “pure white bride” nowadays. But sex is still a pretty big step for couples. Daily says that many women don’t even realize just how much sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin (also referred to as “the cuddle hormone”), which some scientific researchers believe makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners. Daily warns that if women do the deed too soon, they might make too much of a relationship that barely ever existed outside of the bedroom. When you inflate the significance of a relationship, the man often bolts. Daily’s advice is to wait at least one month into the relationship before having sex with your new man.
5. She does little things to show she cares. Daily has one friend who noticed that her traveling salesman boyfriend never had time to get his shirts washed, so he would just go out and buy new ones. Her friend started to drop off his laundry at the dry cleaners once a week. Daily herself cooks for her husband. “It’s as if he doesn’t even know where the kitchen is,” she says. “But that’s not to say that he starves when I’m out of town.” No, you do not have to turn into June Cleaver. The bottom line is that you should want to do the little things that let him know you care and you are paying attention to his individual needs. And he should do the same for you. Daily boasts that her man scrapes the ice off her windshield on cold winter mornings!
6. She should be her boyfriend’s best wingman — err, wing woman. Help him to look good in front of the boss, advises Daily. Laugh at his jokes and help him shine when it is important. Of course, again, he should do the same for you.
7. 7. She never turns on the pressure. This one is important. Men have a distinct aversion to any sort of pressure, says Daily. Therefore, women should avoid calling and/or emailing him many times during the day or dropping hints about the future. In fact, keep the dreaded M-word (marriage) out of your vocabulary all together. “Men don’t want to constantly take the pulse of a relationship,” says Daily. “They would rather just enjoy it.”
8. 8. She does not take any crap — from anyone. A good woman never accepts bad behavior. Guys respect women with whom they can’t get away with anything. If he knows there’s a penalty — like getting thrown to the curb — for a serious violation like cheating, he’ll respect you more, and he will be far less likely to do it. You should also never even bother to date married men, those who already have girlfriends or anyone who verbally or physically threatens or abuses you. Period.
9. 9. A good woman always chooses a good man. That means that you should look for someone who is honest and dependable. He has to treat you right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, he is there. Chivalry is not dead, by the way. “Good manners are a deeper window into what kind of man he truly is,” Daily says. You should also have compatible views on money (which is the number one thing couples fight about). Even though they say opposites attract, savers should think twice before shacking up with wild spenders.
10. 10. She knows that love is the biggest part of the mating equation. Just how does a good woman know that she has found that crazy-for-you, toe-curling relationship? Daily says that some women have an “a-ha” moment, while love simply sneaks up on the rest. “I believe the feeling includes a unique sense of comfort and acceptance and the feeling that someone else’s happiness is as important to you as your own,” Daily says. “A certain amount of toe curling is key as well.”

(Via iVillage.com)

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