Yowazzup: A Directory of Happening Things

Online dating is an ubiquitous thing nowadays. One gets more options before meeting his or her date in real person. For example, you get to take your time to choose, understand, evaluate or prepare yourself before meeting your online date in real life. However, it is always important to be cautious like the saying, “better safe than sorry”. Here are ten online dating tips that you’ll find useful: -

1. Figure out what you want
   If you don’t know what you really want or need, then it will take you just that much longer to find it. Be honest with yourself about what kind of relationship you’d prefer to be involved in, to save yourself (and others) time and trouble.
2. Be Honest
   While discretion is recommended, lying is not, so be honest when you post your profile and photos. Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. The person at the other end may not be who or what he or she says.Trust your instincts.
3. Write a great profile
   What you say about yourself speaks volumes. Keep it light and friendly, and avoid anything negative sounding. Never include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information in your member profile or initial messages.
4. Request a photo
   And don’t forget to post your own. It’s a proven fact that you’ll receive twelve times as many responses when you do. Photos will give you an idea of someone’s appearance, which may prove helpful in realizing that ‘gut feeling.’ It’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors.
5. Chat on the phone
   Before you decide to meet, a phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. Only give your phone number when you feel completely comfortable.
6. Meet when YOU are ready
   The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy.
7. Watch for red flags
   Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags.
8. Meet in a safe place
   When you choose to meet in ‘real life’, always tell someone you know where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with your friend. Rather than have your date to pick you up at home, provide your own transportation, and meet in a public (crowded) place, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well.
9. Take extra caution outside your area
   If you are flying in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll have a place to go back to.
10. Never do anything you feel unsure about
    If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. But then again, you never know, the stars may all line up perfectly, and you’ll find you’ve met your soul mate. You certainly wouldn’t be the first — lots of happy couples have met online.

- by Brenda Ross

(Via Find Your Love)

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Haven’t dated a girl before? Or don’t know the exact steps to take? Here’s Mr. Bean Guide to Dating. Guaranteed success! LoL!

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Going on dates? But none are successful? YourRomanceGuide has some advice for you. Read on.

People who are active on the dating scene, wish that their date likes them. They are desperately looking for clues to find out the impression they have made on their date. If they like the person they are dating, this anxiety becomes overriding. Whether he/she likes me? Did I speak anything that could give any negative impression? How about my personality? Is it good? People with high self-esteem also sometimes get into this anxiety, because they do not want to hear no from their date. What can be done to make a positive impression on your date? Before we go forward, let us always remember that the current date is not the only choice. If he/she is lost, someone better will appear on the scene. You can put your best foot forward but they may have their own reasons to reject you. Those reasons may be totally different. So try your best but don’t feel devastated, if rejected.

Honesty
The very first quality you must display is total honesty. No lies. Not telling about everything does not mean lying, but if a question is asked, you must give a honest answer. That honesty will make your body language positive and the confidence will show in your eyes. Speaking honestly itself gives a lot of confidence. Honesty pays better dividends than any lies despite whatever one may think.

Looks
None of us is responsible for the way we look. We inherited it from our parents and we were never consulted about what kind of looks we wanted. So don’t carry any negative thoughts if you don’t look like a celebrity. Being self-conscious about the shape of your chin or nose will make you appear less confident. Do what you can do. Getting a new hair-style done, going for thorough cleaning of skin and all other such procedures. These show you to take care of what you have got and try to enhance your looks to create a positive impression.

Freshness and Hygiene
Before going on a date, scrub yourself thoroughly, use fresheners to make you feel good, use anti-perspirants if required and get checked with a dentist about mouth odor. Wear clothes that reflect your good taste and enhance your personality. Consult an expert if required.

Talk
Smile often while talking. Don’t interrupt if your date is speaking, avoid all negative talks, and talk of topics that you feel might interest your date more. Why not ask in the beginning itself - ‘I was feeling apprehensive about what all to talk with you because one has so much to talk about many issues. How about telling me your preferences?’ This will break the ice and your date will appreciate your honest and open approach.

Worrying kills whatever chances you have. Rather be confident that you are a desirable person. Count your positive qualities and regain your confidence. Don’t ponder over the possible results. Prepare well and put your best foot forward.

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